Supporting Your Partner During a Work Relocation

If your spouse has received a job offer that would require you to move long distance, you may have mixed emotions. While relocating someplace new is exciting, it isn't on your own terms--you are leaving behind your own job, friends, and family for your partner's career. You may feel resentful, frustrated, and even angry. However, if you do decide to move with your spouse, these tips will help you be supportive during this new stage in your lives together.

Be positive

Your spouse is probably also pretty nervous about the move--especially if you weren't all for it. If you agree to relocate, acting resentful or angry will only stress you both out and make the move unpleasant. If you are having reservations about the move, openly discuss them, but keep a positive attitude at the same time. Your spouse likely feels the same way you do about certain aspects of the relocation--but being supportive means not focusing on the negative and embracing the positive.

Get involved
Even if your spouse's employer is paying for the move, there is a lot of planning and tasks to complete. Just because the move wasn't your idea doesn't mean you shouldn't help out. Planning a move is a lot of work, and requires significant time and effort. Showing your spouse you care means lending a hand with the organizing, packing, phone calls, and paperwork.

Research your new city
If you are feeling anxious about a long distance move, becoming familiar with your new city will make it easier to get on board. You may find out that there are many interesting places in your new area, a thriving job market in your industry, or other desirable qualities that will get you excited about the move. Getting background information and locating spots of interest will also make the area feel less unfamiliar when you arrive.

Don't forget to take time for yourself
With all the planning and preparation for the move, you may become overwhelmed considering your partner's needs. To stay sane, it's crucial to take time for yourself to relax and focus on things that are important to you--like spending time with your loved ones before you move. While it's imperative to remain supportive to your spouse during the transition, your needs are just as important.

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