When you first make the decision to get an apartment with a partner, you may dream of living together in perfect bliss. However, soon your partner's annoying habits become glaringly unavoidable, arguments escalate into full-fledged shouting matches, and resentment begins to build.
If you are considering moving into an apartment with your partner, there are certainly many ways to make the transition with ease. By making the necessary preparations in advance and being courteous and thoughtful, you can help maintain a harmonious household and protect yourself in the unfortunate event that things don't work out.
Have both names on the lease
If you are moving into a new apartment together, you should have both of your names on your rental agreement. This way, if things don't work out you will both have your rights protected. If your name is on the lease, your partner cannot throw you out after a split. Also, you will have more power to hold your ex accountable for unpaid rent should he or she take off without warning.
Downsize We all accumulate a great deal of stuff throughout our lives, and moving in with another person limits your space to store it all. Before you move in, sift through all your junk and toss out clothes that haven't been worn in a year. Get rid of duplicate appliances and keep the newest or most advanced model. Make compromises when it comes to furniture--even if your partner is the one moving into your apartment, you want them to feel as if it's their home as well.
Set the rulesBefore anyone even begins to move in their belongings, come up with a list of do's and don'ts for the household. Everyone has their pet peeves, so it's best to communicate openly about the simple stuff that is going to keep your sanity. You should also make a list of weekly household chores and decide who will be responsible for each task, as well as have a plan for how you will split the finances. You can designate different bills for each of you or just split everything down the middle.
Have alone timeLiving together can be suffocating. No matter how much you love someone, having them constantly available can make the relationship feel stagnant and leave you feeling like you have lost your identity. To maintain your individuality and to keep your romance fresh, set aside time for yourself and the things you enjoy doing.
Keep date nightsDon't let the convenience of having your partner at home every night turn you into a couch couple. Make time to go out to dinner, to the movies, or have drinks with friends. If money doesn't allow you to indulge in these luxuries frequently, plan cost-efficient alternatives--like a picnic in the park or a game night with friends. While snuggling up under a blanket and watching a movie at home is one of the perks of living together, taking your relationship out on the town once in awhile is important.
Don't sweat the small stuffDon't let little annoying habits breed resentment and anger. Learn to let things go, or at least speak openly about them before they have time to fester and erupt in the form of rage. Be considerate and courteous, and aware of your lover's feelings at all times. Effective communication, a little compromise and an open mind will go a long way.
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